Not me but my mom. When she and my dad were on their second separation, she was out with her best friend and was venting about all the problems in the marriage and all the things she wanted him to change. Her friend asked her "What are you willing to change about yourself?" It made my mother think about how she negatively affected the marriage too and realize that if she wanted him to change things about himself, she needed to be willing to change things about herself and meet him halfway. They've been back together for over 25 years and have been going strong.