Only one of my friends ever contacts me unprompted, wether it is via text or a quick drop by. I would never hear from the others again if I didn't message or call them first. This isn't as bad as some of the others here but it has been bothering me for a long while.

edit: Thank you all for the words of support or even just talking about your own experiences. I wish you all the best friends in the world.

edit2: Thank you for all the rewards, but honestly I have no idea what they mean, reading your replies is more than enough. If these cost money please spend it on something for yourself, even if that is just a beer or a chocolate bar or something healthy. Most people deserve that and I'm certain you do too. If you are inclined to give I'm sure there's nicer things you can spend it on that some mystified fool on the internet 🙂
I honestly can't keep up with the replies and messages but please check out the sticky if you're in any sort of need. I'm sure the people on the other end of those links don't mind your questions or tales, however small they may seem to you. I'd love to reply to you all but I can't and I'm sorry.